in the face of grief and loss

Recently I have gotten in contact with a  friend who recently lost her mother, they were close.  When the painful reality sets in and the rest of the family wants to have a piece of what is lost.  Which turns into a civil war within the family.  Sides get chosen, and feelings get hurt. In some cases nothing can heal the pain that is caused over the (perceived) selfishness of the other person.  Unfortunately, money and property is the root of the down fall of family.  I've seen it happen more then once.  Talking a friend down from an angry rage, and with willingness to do harm to another family member isn't new to me. Trying to talk about karma and living your best life, isn't always what people want to hear, no matter how much they know it to be true.   I've been a councilor for as long as I can remember, and to tell you the truth I've been on the other side of the anger.  I'm only human after all.

So part of grief is getting angry, whether or not it is at the one who past on, or the family that is left to fight with, it is part of the journey.  In my experience there is a point when a family member who wants a piece of the one who past, it can be because of selfishness, and it also because they feel they didn't do enough for those who past.  It doesn't excuse their actions, but if you can gain some prospective and empathy, it may make things a bit easier to handle. It may also help you so you not do something you may regret later.  Do not let the anger turn to hate, and make you into someone who do not recognize.

Losing a family member isn't easy for anyone, if you need an ear to bend, please contact an outside source. A registered minister, a family friend, a group on your favorite social media app., or if you are in a really dark place contact a crisis hotline. (link below)
I also am willing to listen. You don't have to be alone.

https://www.crisistextline.org/textline?gclid=CjwKCAjwypjVBRANEiwAJAxlIgdg5gEGOeBM68XccbSythjRHK5D62EIjBRSU4jQ9eX4jDXd3MjzeRoCxKsQAvD_BwE

The questions I am asking is, how did you get through a difficult time? Is there someone who you're not talking to because of the loss of a family member? Have you forgiven anyone who has been selfish in the face of loss, how did you get to the point of forgiveness?

Thank you,
Have a blessed day.